Why does the beauty standard focus more on the female gender?
What is body shaming? Body shaming is the activity by which a person’s physical structure is being judged by certain societal standards.
Let’s begin from there; Different regions have their perspective of beauty in Nigeria, beauty could mean having a fairer skin tone or a darker one, it could be in weight comparison, facial attributes and also in body appeals or height. So why the need for shaming? Body shaming and body doubt is something most people experience during the adolescent and teenage phases in life and those stages are fragile whereby that negativity could scar a person for life.
One major fact about body shaming is that people feel like they need to have an opinion on everything including a random fellow’s body. When I say ‘people’ as used above I mean the perpetrators of such acts.
It is a known fact in Nigeria that the so called elders like to poke nose, a person could be walking ten feet away from them and they would shout out “aah ife u don com fat oo you jus de chop abi, dis one wey u de look like mama we don bon four pikin” like was that necessary?
Someone could be having body doubt and an oppressor is equally body shaming that person too! Do you know what that could lead to? It could lead to anorexia, bulimia, depression, self-starvation, and in fact can lead a person to committing suicide.
I personally believe no one should body shame another person not because a person could be going through body doubt hence making them vulnerable alone but because it’s actually no one’s business which is the honest truth. It is no one’s business if a person is tall, short, plus size, skinny, huge, petite, busty, flat chested, thick, lean, and muscular or a unicorn.
Negative body talk has to be stopped and people need to embrace themselves. This is a reminder to deist from being perpetrators of this act or people that encourage this act because even giving them an audience is you doing something bad.
Never listen when the work of art that is the glory of the lord that is your body is being criticised by people who make their bed not to talk of a human. Never cry or feel bad about the imperfections of our bodies, to never cower because we look a certain way because newsflash we are all unique like pearls.
What is the beauty standard in Nigeria? Honestly the phrase beauty standards itself is a sham , there’s no such thing as beauty standards , everyone is beautiful as they are irrespective of race, hair, weight, height, intelligence ,talents ,passion, kindness etc.